There’s a balance between being insecure and arrogant. That happy medium is where confidence lies. You don’t want to think negatively of yourself, but you don’t want to think too highly of yourself either. You want to be realistic, accepting, and forgiving. But how do you get there? In this blog post, I provide some tips to help you feel more confident in who you are.
1) Take time to focus and achieve your goals
You will feel better about yourself as you accomplish more things. But don’t make your goals outlandish. Instead, create small goals that are easily reachable. Then, keep track of every goal that you make. You can do this on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. Start out your day by creating a to-do list of what you want to accomplish. Then, check things off as you go. Remember to keep your goals attainable.
2) Commit to an exercise routine
Exercise is great for reducing your stress levels and improving focus. It can also improve your overall health. All of which is good for your confidence levels.
3) Take time to get ready in the morning
Don’t rush out the door. Get yourself cleaned up. Brush your hair, brush your teeth, wash your face and pick out an outfit you feel good in. Make time to care about how you look before you walk out the door. You don’t have to look perfect, but the goal is to feel comfortable with yourself. When you’re cleaned up and feel good it can give you a confidence boost.
4) Keep company with positive, supportive people
There may be some negative people in your life that hurt your confidence. While you should work on trying not to let others dictate how you feel about yourself, you should also try to surround yourself with positive people. The people you’re around can have an impact on your mental well-being.
5) Focus on the positive
Take time to consider the things you like about yourself, including your strengths and talents. If it helps, write a list of all your strengths. Focus on the things that you are strong in and less on the things that you feel are your weaknesses. When you have a negative thought, try to replace it with something positive. Think about the things that fill you with gratitude. And try to avoid playing the comparison game. It does no good to look at someone else and wish you were like them. In those moments, take time to think about what makes you great and remember that no one is perfect (not even the people who seem perfect on the outside).
6) Plan ahead
If you lack confidence in public situations, like job interviews or work presentations, try to prepare in advance. Take time to walk through what you’ll say. Preparation is a great confidence builder.
It may take time to build your confidence, but if you work at it, you can get there. Keep focusing on the positive and be the best version of yourself you can be. You’ve got this!
[Monalisa Johnson is a licensed and ordained minister of the gospel and a certified life coach as well as a mother and entrepreneur. In no way is anything that she writes, speaks or shares considered medical advice or clinical therapy. Consider all that you receive to be life coaching and guidance.]