If you have a loved one in prison, it’s normal to feel down at times. It’s tough not being able to see your loved one whenever you want.
It’s okay to experience feelings of sadness or dismay, but you shouldn’t dwell on the “what ifs.” Instead, you need to focus on the now. You need to find a way to feel content during this. difficult time in your life.
Of course, that is easier said than done. When you’re in the midst of a storm, it’s tough to see the sun peeking through the clouds. You may feel trapped or like your life is spiraling out of control. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to feel better.
Here are a few simple suggestions:
Call a friend
If you’re feeling depressed, don’t feel like you need to battle these feelings alone. Find a friend who will show you support and a listening ear. Call or text that friend and let them know you need someone to be there for you, whether that’s just to listen, to offer words of encouragement, or to take a walk.
Go to your support group
There are plenty of support groups out there, including online forums and social media. Find one that’s filled with other people going through similar issues. If your struggle has to deal with the fact that you have a loved one in prison, please check out my Prisoner of Hope group. A support group is a great place to talk about what you’re going through and to find guidance.
Write it down
When you’re struggling with something, write it down. Sometimes writing down your thoughts can help you process them more clearly or even let them go.
Focus on positive things
It’s really hard to think positively when you’re spiraling. But when you find yourself in this situation, try to start naming the things you are thankful for. Think about things that are going right, instead of those things that are bringing you down.
Write a letter
If you’re feeling down because you’re missing your loved one, sit down and write them a letter. That will allow you to “talk” with them even if they’re not right beside you.
Go for a walk
Fitness in general can help you clear your head and get those feel-good endorphins pumping through your system. Taking a walk is a great way to do this.
Know you’re not alone. Talk openly about what you’re going through in prayer. Express your feelings with openness and honesty.
When you’re feeling down, know that you’re not alone. Take time to think about positive things and work through the issues that are bringing you down. Find the support you need and lean on that support.
It’s a tough road you’re on, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find some peace along the way. On a side note, if you’re suffering from depression, it’s a good idea to seek out professional medical advice.
[Monalisa Johnson is a licensed and ordained minister of the gospel and a certified life coach as well as a mother and entrepreneur. In no way is anything that she writes, speaks or shares considered medical advice or clinical therapy. Consider all that you receive to be life coaching and guidance.]