Working through the emotions of seeing a loved one imprisoned

When you have a loved one in prison, it’s incredibly important to show them support. The situation is difficult. They’re probably dealing with feelings of remorse and the knowledge that life has completely changed for them. They no longer have the same freedoms they once did and are faced with a new and unpleasant environment. Many of us know how important it is to stay in contact with our loved ones as much as we can and let them know we still care about them. But what about the people on the outside of the prison walls? The people who have loved ones in prison also need support.

If you’ve recently had a loved one imprisoned then you’ll have a lot to work out emotionally. Life will be different. It will be harder to get in contact with your loved one. You won’t be able to celebrate birthdays and holidays together for some time. It’s natural to grieve these losses. You may also be struggling to come to terms with why your loved one is in prison. Maybe what they did was a total surprise to you. If you’re a parent, you may be feeling shame and wondering what you might have done wrong. You may be questioning if you should have done something differently. This can also be a normal feeling to have. But I’m here to tell you, it’s time to let those feelings of guilt and shame go.

Negative self-talk will not help you move forward. You need to let this go so you can find hope. Hope keeps us going and allows us to think of a better future. We need this for ourselves and for our loved ones behind bars.

To move past this you may need to talk with a counselor, journal or speak with supportive friends. I also have a free ebook targeted to parents of incarcerated individuals. In it, I share free tips that help you navigate to a place of power.

Yes, your loved one needs support during this trying time, but so do you. You need to walk through the emotions you’re feeling, you need to be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Take steps today to find that.

It’s difficult to process any big change, as we’ve seen with the COVID-19 pandemic. We’ve lost some freedoms along the way, and struggle to deal with the change it has brought forth and the inability to be with our loved ones. It’s hard to lose time with a loved one. It’s also incredibly hard to see a loved one hauled off to jail, knowing there’s nothing you can do and that life is now different. Find a way to work through these feelings so you can get to a place of power and hope. Find the supportive people you need to confide in, reach out to professionals and rely on helpful sources like my ebook for guidance. Wishing you all the best as you walk this difficult journey.

[Monalisa Johnson is a licensed and ordained minister of the gospel and a certified life coach as well as a mother and entrepreneur. In no way is anything that she writes, speaks or shares considered medical advice or clinical therapy. Consider all that you receive to be life coaching and guidance.]

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